I know adultiversary sounds like an anniversary of adultery or something…. so let me clarify what I mean.
I turned thirty three weeks ago now, which is now considered by some studies to be official adulthood. Recently, my husband had to take a routine seminar at work through human resources. He said there was a whole section about how to talk to millennials. The speaker said that nowadays young adults typically don’t reach what’s considered “real” adulthood until age 29. 29! So upon turning 30 a few weeks ago, I reached my one year anniversary of being a real adult!
Happy adultiversary to me.
When my husband told me adults were not “real adults” until age 29, I had a palm-to-forehead moment, though I get it. Adulthood is a much longer road for millennials. You’ve heard it a million times already: student loans, horrible job market, and no expectations to take the traditional path of marriage, 9-to-5 job, home-ownership and babies. It’s given more freedom to millennials, but also more burden in reaching independence.
Thoughts on millennials turning 30
1) Though turning 30 seemed to be a bit of a crisis for the Boomer generation, I think many millennials are embracing 30. Being stuck in the in-between years are not all they are cracked up to be. 30 is an excuse to take a deep sigh of relief and say, “ok my 20s are over, now I can get on with my life. Finally.”
2) On turning 30 I’ve heard the same reflections from several people. Twenties are for figuring out who you are, in your thirties you choose a direction that’s right for you. I think the “finding direction” decade of your thirties might prove to be the best decade yet for millennials. They are coined as “pragmatic idealists” by Howe & Strauss, and in their 30s, millennials might finally prove this nickname to be accurate. Post-quarter-life crisis, and ready to take on the world.
3) If your burdened by FOMO, 30 is a great time to get a grip on what you actually fear missing out on, and ditch the rest of the woulda, should, couldas. Whether it’s something radical– like traveling all over the world, or traditional– marriage? babies?– or something in between, 30 is a good time to start making plans on how to not miss out on the things that are meaningful to you. I love watching the pictures that flood my Facebook feed of many of my friends who also turned 30 this year. One recently posted a picture in Venice ( I swear she was just in Austria a few months ago). One posted a picture of her third baby, making a total of three lovely girls. I love that so many of my friends are happy in various ways.
And one final thought– I don’t have feelings of FOMO very much anymore. I feel like I’m right where I’m supposed to be. Embrace your own personal FOMO, as it will probably lead you to where you want to go.
Look who’s 30…1984 babies
Lebron James, Katy Perry, Scarlett Johansen, Mark Zuckerberg, Prince Harry, according to FamousBirthdays.com
How 1984 affected millennial childhood
Someone sent me this link on my birthday of things that happened in 1984. 1984 was a big year! To highlight a few: Tetris, Transformers, LEGAL taping of TV ( I didn’t even know that was ever outlawed.) THE MAC. Alex Trebec on Jeopardy….. and TED Talks! Check out the full list here.
“The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco”
Twain was right. My husband surprised me with a trip up north to see family and a day in San Francisco. It was a balmy 55 degrees and windy. I grew up in a suburb outside of the Bay Area so I visited San Francisco often as a kid, and through college. But on this trip, I realized how many of my memories are really vague. It was fun to explore the city as an adult.. a real 30-year-old adult! We went to de Young Museum in Golden Gate Park, The Japanese Tea Room, Fisherman’s Wharf, and finished the day with a salted caramel hot chocolate in Ghiradelli Square. I’m still thinking about that hot chocolate, it was so good.
Millennials have you reached your 30s? How do you feel? If you’re still in your 20s what do you hope to achieve before the big 3-0?